As a life coach, teacher, and a practitioner of well-being, her problem is obvious to me: She is meeting her expectations. Oh yes, her intent is to succeed, but in her heart, she fears -- knows -- she will not. And there it is. Her belief is stronger than her intent, and the negativity behind that belief dominates, producing her expectations.
Thus, I offer this slogan as the 'secret' to success....success with anything we do in life. My friend has a chronic habit of negative thinking -- probably learned from early environment and practice -- and thus, pulls negativity to her, and in this example, it is disappointment. Our ego loves to be right -- and with failure we hear that familiar voice in our head: "I knew I couldn't do it...."
It is a simple concept, but one that is difficult to diagnose in ourselves unless we sit back and listen to what we say, aware of what our thoughts are telling us, and observe our actions. And then we have to change it -- one thought at a time. We have to catch ourselves in the process of thinking, and when it is working against us, we have to cancel it -- literally -- and rethink what it is we are wanting. It can be done, but since we are the only one living in our head, we are the one and only who can change it -- and follow through.
More later on this, of this I am certain.
Have a good day and a healthy, happy, productive, and contented week.